1. How to make it easier on the kids

Children are normally sensitive through change and can each express their feelings about your divorce in a unique way. Dealing with their feelings should be dealt with in a healthy way whether it is feelings of guilt, sadness, frustration or anger. Talk with your spouse about how you will tell them and encourage communication. Think about how your divorce will impact your children and then create a plan on how to prepare them before it all begins. Seeking out resources like counseling may be a good option to help them cope.

  1. Gather important documents

A divorce is a legal dissolution of a marriage and often requires a substantial amount of time, effort and money. Having important documents together would be the first step in moving forward. Make sure to have copies of all important documents like tax statements, income, property deeds, marriage certificates, account statements, retirement funds and other important files. Before moving forward, contact an experienced attorney. They will be able to advise what paperwork is needed and ways to prepare.

  1. Consider a legal separation

If you and your spouse have hopes of reconciling your differences over time, then divorce may not be the best option for you. A legal separation consists of separating your finances and property that you can live apart without fully dissolving the marriage. Another reason for a legal separation could be if you rely on each other for health insurance, religious purposes or just personal preferences.

  1. Plan financially

Before you get the ball rolling, figure out how you will be able to cover the expenses. If your divorce will be contentious or if you have complex issues at stake, your divorce will likely cost more. Think about your daily expenses and who will now be responsible for the mortgage and where will you live? Are you able to afford rent, food and other daily expenses alone? If you are a stay-at-home spouse then you may be able to request temporary spousal support to help pay for living expenses during the divorce. Many people rely on their families’ financial assistance when facing a divorce. Look over your expenses, your income and your savings to determine what you can afford and what assistance you may need to request. Make a budget and plan for any essential expenses, children expenses, car, health and other crucial things.

 Each divorce is uniquely different and it is important to discuss your situation with an experienced family lawyer. If you are thinking about getting a divorce, our firm can help.