There is no such thing as a “typical” divorce. Every divorce is unique with different outcomes. But there are some similarities in divorces. You are about to face many challenges along the way as a dad who is filing for divorce and trying to figure out a custody arrangement that will work for both parties. Here are five tips that will help you navigate through the process as easy as possible.


  1.     Get your ducks in a row

If you are thinking about getting a divorce it is important that you discuss the process with an experienced attorney. They will be able to guide you through all the legal aspects and help you connect with different specialists.

Anyone who has been through a divorce will tell you that it is a very stressful experience. Having an experienced attorney on your side will help prevent missteps that could jeopardize the goals of your divorce case.

  1.     The children come first

Although it is completely natural to feel anger and resentment toward your spouse, your children should be your top priority. Do not allow any feelings towards your spouse to take priority over the better interest and welfare of your children. They should not be placed in the middle and much less used as leverage to get what you are fighting for during divorce.

  1.     Find resources that could help your kids cope

For all parties, divorce is a bumpy road full of emotions. But kids take it especially hard. Do not underestimate the fragility of your children’s mental health state before, during and after a divorce. There are many resources like counseling that can help them cope.

  1.     Figure out what you really want

Identify what your goals are during the divorce. For example, if it is to secure and equally shared custody then an experienced family law attorney can help guide and walk you through the necessary steps to help you achieve the goals you desire.

  1.     Prepare yourself and be proactive

When you are involved in a custody case that requires the court to be involved, situations can get complicated quickly. You will need to be able to prove to the judge that you deserve to have equal parenting times as your former partner. Get involved in your children’s lives and have clear communication with your former partner about doctor visits, extracurricular activities and school work.